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Might we enlarge love?

:- Doug.

Completing our living is peeling an onion: First we complete our work in the world, then our relationships with community, then with friends. The final layer is our relation with closest of family and here we seek to complete intimacy. We do our forgiving, thanking, saying our I love yous and goodbyes, all a giving of blessings. When this layer is complete, there is only the great open space.

:- Doug.

We cannot center solely on autonomy. Autonomy with family makes sense: both are true to life, at least in this day and age.

It comes down to this: love flows in many directions. What you want is mediated by the love you show your family. So your wishes about your time approaching death include life’s conversations within your family, a warp and woof you cannot unweave.

:- Doug.

Beauty—to round out one’s life
Truth—to receive justice, the care one wants
Goodness—to receive and give kindness with others
The classical guides can serve us in dying

:- Doug.

Why does it matter? Because it’s a way of being kind to one another.

:- Doug.