We cannot plumb our own depths
Can we find depth in ourselves? This is attractive, but I wonder. The other person is not just a tool (a sounding board), nor a depth digger (asking questions to help us), but at least a part of our depth, the part that lies between us and among us. We are not without others. If that is the case, we cannot go to depth on our own. We have not deeps without others. The same is true of Whole making: we cannot plumb our own depths if we do not go on to making others whole with us.
So I cannot help someone else find his or her own depths; I can only help us find our common depths, because there is only common depth.
:- Doug.
