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When a person is happy in retirement and another is happy continuing to work, there is a possibility they each mistake what they are doing for the source of their happiness. Perhaps the source is their habitat: old age is a source of happiness. Whatever they do participates in their happiness. Their working or not working receives the energy as the other pedal is pushed forward and in turn adds more forward energy. Happiness cycles.

:- Doug.

An actor, say a politician, needs an audience to be. As soon as the audience starts acting, the persons who judge themselves the actors begin getting anxious—and soon they clamp down. The revolt is quelled, the demonstrators dispersed, the creativity of life quashed.

:- Doug.

The good host mostly does not seek to control how the invitation is received nor whether it is accepted. The good host extends invitations and arms, allowing friends to choose for themselves. For themselves.

:- Doug.

When do we die well? I’d thinking it is when we die our own death: when we die where and with whom we choose; when we are in the state of mind and heart we want. We don’t all get all that. But do we sometimes get in each other’s way? How can we get out of each other’s way as much as possible?

:- Doug.

The end of life conversation is not only or primarily legal. The end of life conversation is not only or primarily medical. The end of life conversation is not only but is primarily familial—of the human family.

:- Doug.

If you want to travel further in conversation and thinking together, try going into more and more subtlety.

:- Doug.

To participate means to make and to eat. Participation is pot luck.

:- Doug.

Have you found peace with life?

:- Doug.

The disturbance matters less than realizing we are in the disturbance together. Our task then is to work on the disturbance.

:- Doug.

Invite conversations of life and.

:- Doug.

This afternoon is an invitation.

:- Doug.

Law is not about forcing someone to do what you want, but about inventing your way to live together, to thrive together.

:- Doug.

Bohm seems to be about correcting our seeing by getting thought out of seeing’s way. Many times professionals think that if people knew the “facts,” the theory, the overall picture, they would change what they do. Both assume that knowledge has the primary effect.

Perhaps life is more than this. Perhaps we need to actually attend the doing and the choosing of the doing.

Knowledge has the effect of freeing us, giving us choices. Yet we still need to hear the invitation and to feel the call. The brain needs legs and hands to start spinning and molding its world.

:- Doug.

This lawyer has soft edges.

:- Doug.

Sometimes we have to remove our dark glasses to see more clearly. Thought is dark glasses.

:- Doug.

Yesterday they put Mom
in the nursing home
This morning dropped the kids
at the day care
Now they can get on with
their life
Have they forgotten their life
is Mom, is the kids?
Have they forgotten their life?

:- Doug.

Are we making family while we’re in the midst of crisis?

:- Doug.

Do we have time to make family when we’re in the middle of crisis? Which is more important?

:- Doug.

If you want to create something new it is important that you get it wrong, off kilter. This gives you new raw material to juxtapose and bounce.

:- Doug.

If you want people to grow hide a bit of leaven within them.

:- Doug.

When you get together to work your way through your setting you are finding and making your family. What it means to be this family will change for ever.

:- Doug.

What does it mean to be family when we’re turning a page? How do we make family?

:- Doug.

In our inviting and our freeing and our calling whole….we are not separate from God, we partake of God, we have a part to do and to play.

:- Doug.