Going right
In canoeing, the stroke makes it go; the J-stroke makes it go right. So we need not just to steer our life-canoe, but to steer it with whole-making: move back with others.
:- Doug.
Archive for the 'Conversations' Category
Some little nut in a shell
You’re not just some little nut in a shell: reach out in whole-making to the rest of the cosmos. Make the whole more whole.
:- Doug.
How can they happen reliably?
How can we help the conversations happen reliably, involving as many of the group of care givers (of whatever profession), family and our living person?
:- Doug.
You deserve a chance. A chance to live as you want.
You deserve a chance. A chance to live as you want.
:- Doug.
Not simply dragging out
Conversation is not about simply dragging out what’s inside you. It is about shaping it. It is about discovering it. It is about co-creating it. I had not thought about dying on the boat dock till my friend Jerry voiced it.
:- Doug.
on your death bed?
What would it mean to you to be living to your fullest—on your death bed?
:- Doug.
The work of eldering….
The work of life, particularly eldering, is the dissolution of ego. As we get older, as we become parents, as we become more mature, we see less and less sense in winning arguments, getting our way, controlling things. As I get older and longer into our marriage, I see less sense in being right. It is not that peace is better than war, but that we are all one and it makes no sense to try to win, to make another lose. It does make sense to hear out other points of view, to engage. But it is not me against you, but only growing you, growing me.
:- Doug.
“Have you had that looked at?”
Have you had that looked at?
What?
Your complete lack of compassion.
:- Doug.
“Observation status”
“First, do no harm.” Yet with “observation status” you are doing harm: to the sick, the frail, our elders.
:- Doug.
No professional time for this conversation?
Is it really true there is, for lawyer, for doctor, no time for the end of life conversation? Can we say “This is on me”? Do we have to make every moment pay? Can we make this conversation pay?
:- Doug.
Upon reading a bumper sticker:
Upon reading a bumper sticker: Why does Jesus only ever save John? (& him exactly 316 times?)
:- Doug.
freshness rushes in
The space of invitation
All space is
Open a bellows, freshness rushes in
:- Doug.
Preparing for meeting
Preparing for meeting
Participating in meeting
Pondering meeting done
Consider what you know
More, consider what you do not
:- Doug.
Finding a playground
In our modern world self organization is at work but often circumscribed by our pervasive and pernicious desire to control. In Open Space self organization finds a playground.
:- Doug.
What you don’t
As you consider people’s stories, consider what you know, and what you don’t.
:- Doug.
