What can we hope to accomplish in an hour?
What can we hope to accomplish in an hour? Invite, look for positive deviants, taste skills, spark attitude change, seeing the injustice and uncaring, sparking desire to speak truth to power….
:- Doug.
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POST is a flapping of butterfly wings
POST is a flapping of butterfly wings, a little thing, starting.
:- Doug.
Be careful of this danger:
Be careful of this danger: seeing what you have seen before when what is in front of you is new.
:- Doug.
People around us stand to have pain, remorse….
People around us stand to have a great deal of pain, remorse, guilt, anger and more around our deaths. We can do something about that now while we are healthy and later nearing our deaths. We must open space for one another. All sides bear the responsibility for this. People do sometimes cut off one another, refuse to listen. We need to get agreement to hear each other out, to not interrupt, to take in and allow their thoughts respect.
:- Doug.
When Dad lies there dying….
When Dad lies there dying how might we best love Dad and one another? Or when we are not clear that Dad is dying?
:- Doug.
The works to which we are invited:
God is acting: inviting us, free us, calling us home. These are the works of God and the works to which we are invited.
:- Doug.
The cool washcloth brigade
Together let us invent for the dying among us, the cool washcloth brigade.
:- Doug.
Why do we separate the dying from others?
Why do we separate the dying from others? Of course they want to bring their ambit in ever narrower, but is this always good? Might there be some good in speaking with, being with, one another?
;- Doug.
The need for conversation is not going to go away,
The need for conversation is not going to go away, ever, until the last person is standing on earth.
:- Doug.
If these are at odds, which do you choose?
If these are at odds, which do you choose?
A. Life sustaining treatment
B. Treatment that provides comfort, relieves suffering, and promotes doing your own activities of daily living
:- Doug.
with one turn around this globe
Life is sacred
life is not done
with one turn
around this globe
sanctity is
in its ebbs and flows
I die yet lives life!
:- Doug.
I used to think God was high above
I used to think God was high above
Then God seemed below holding me up
Now we are walking through God all about us
This too shall be surpassed
God maybe larger maybe otherwise entirely
:- Doug.
Coming together around three main trajectory groups
Could family and friend caregivers come together to help our national community better support the ones for whom we care? Perhaps we could concentrate on the three main trajectory disease groups: cancers and their cliffs; chronic heart diseases and emphysema and their slow decline punctuated by exacerbating events; dementias and frailties with their longer, slower declines.
:- Doug.
The work of dying is about….
The work of dying is about conversing with: your self; meaning; the incomprehensibility of dying; family; community; something larger.
:- Doug.
Birth is a terminal condition….
Birth is a terminal condition. So we are working on our dying even today, in good health, while our daily rounds continue. This conversing about what care we want at end of life is saying I love you to one another; it is also saying whether and why we might want to be conscious and with family and at home. At home means comfort; conscious so we can do the 5 conversations; and with family so that we can feel the web of life that goes on.
:- Doug.
The work of peace
How might we take the work of peace in death to our society, a society that thinks death is a failure?
:- Doug.
