how to tell if we’re having fun
Every day, something new
if we’re having fun
:- Doug.
We’re all learning this thing called life as we go along.
:- Doug.
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How to be a burden
You can be a burden on your family at end of life by stressing them, giving emotional pain, keeping them in the dark—not just by being a financial burden. More so, not letting people help or love you is a burden that is carried years beyond your life.
:- Doug.
memento vitae
Maybe what our culture needs for our end of life conversation is some serious time for memento mori, memento vitae.
:- Doug.
Leaves hanging on to their twigs
Leaves hanging on to their twigs
straight out in the wind
silently squealing Whee!
:- Doug.
When we could have been
Much of what we do is unthinking
forgetting
to engage our profundity and
collateral effects detector
So that if we think to promise Mom
no nursing home
we ought think about her
sitting helplessly watching us
kill ourselves
While we will both grow
tired, irritated, and angry
with one another
When we could have been tender
:- Doug.
There is another logic
There is another logic
Beneath the me that’s me
I may not have the me I thought
We’re something larger
To unlearn
:- Doug.
Playing your memory tapes
Playing your memory tapes
Causes you to walk away from people
—And life
:- Doug.
Obvious messages
Sometimes the obvious things—our hair, our way of walking, our attitude—are sending a message. Maybe to us.
:- Doug.
Walk facing backwards
Shall you walk facing backwards
Or with eyes on what is before you?
Shall you walk with your mind facing back?
:- Doug.
The meaning of life?
What is the meaning of life?
This question is beclouded thinking
What—we think it a thing to grasp
Is—Do we know what is means?
The—only one?
Meaning—What is the significance of meaning?
Of—is life really owned by meaning?
Life—As if we understood
:- Doug.
Living is the meaning
Living is the meaning
I have life
Or more accurately
Living has me
There is no me
An experiment
In flow
:- Doug.
We cannot separate these:
We cannot separate these, they are not just bound up with one another, they are each other: life, love, meaning, whole, holy, thinking, creativity, more.
:- Doug.
Life is the meaning
Life is the meaning. Thinking is life and when confused and it becomes thought, life loses its meaning. Conversation is life and love: when dissipated in idleness and chit chat, loses its salt.
:- Doug.
Learning by an opened mouth
Usually when you shut your mouth you can learn something; but if your mouth be opened by a deeper truth you can learn something profound.
:- Doug.
The campaign ought to be the message
The campaign ought to be the message, the message the campaign.
:- Doug.
More about cooperation than competition
Traffic is more about cooperation than competition.
:- Doug.
The working practical definition of love
This is where we create life: not just in egg, sperm, and heat of passions; but also and more so in creating and passing along creative spirit. Touching others, stirring the pot, stirring the blood. This is also the working practical definition of love.
:- Doug.
Let us wish for them rough seas
Our times are tough but if we work and if our children work, they will have better times. But let us wish for them rough seas along the way, to give them fiber.
:- Doug.
We create our deaths
We create our lives by what we say about them to one another. We do this by laws, social conventions, our own words and actions. In the same way we create our deaths. What death do you want? What death do you think others will let you have? What death will you let them have?
:- Doug.
