to expand the rest of life
Communitas is not only a stage to pass through, not a brief stop, but a kairos moment to be within—to enjoy, take part in, grow—to work upon one’s self and each other—to expand the rest of life. Not just yours.
:- Doug.
Archive for the 'Conversations' Category
Where one goes when
A church is a place one goes when hurt, frightened, alone—a sacred place—somehow parallel to a conversation.
:- Doug.
weak in unexpected ways
There are kinds and kinds of weak and strong. What we take as weak may be strong in unexpected ways.
:- Doug.
Only one secret
If we only find one secret, or one scintilla of a secret, we have met, it is enough, it is sidereal.
:- Doug.
Graduation caps in air
At graduation, throwing caps in the air is a semi-authorized breaking of social norms, in a ritual setting. Graduations are one form of secular ritual our society openly practices.
:- Doug.
Big here, Big now
Big here, Big now
Exp (a good launching)
Eriment (risky, testy)
Erience (are you sure you got better?)
Ose (vulnerable for fun and profit)
Lode (not your best day)
And (yes, sometimes)
Anse (this is you)
Ect (lode this)
Edition (not a book, travel)
Ert (there are none)
Ire (insp, resp)
Lain (lift from sleep)
Ort (get out of here!)
Ress (wiser at times if you don’t)
Urgate (your guesses and knowledge)
Big now, Big hear
:- Doug.
Call her name
Call your friend’s name. Then just look softly, gently into their eyes, receiving them, only receiving.
:- Doug.
Way out before imagination
As we talk, possibilities expand. The possibilities show up way out before our imaginations pick up on them. They are possibilities for knowledge. They might also be possibilities for us to relate.
:- Doug.
Positive intermeddling
Try to feel within yourself what this—whatever this—feels like to your friend. Call it “positive intermeddling.” You feel this and at the same time you make your efforts and intent clear to your friend.
:- Doug.
To loop, to hear
To loop slows down the conversation, any conversation, so the parties can hear. They can hear not only their friend, but themselves.
:- Doug.
Why behind Why
I had long advocated Why Again. Now I see the Why behind the Why—it is pulling back another curtain.
:- Doug.
A place to stand
Terms and words give us a place to stand from which we can manipulate—ourselves.
:- Doug.
Not any “deeper”
It may be possible we’re not any “deeper” than this. Or, what amounts to the same effect, our essence becomes so thickened and dense it resists all efforts to push our fingers into it. Or, it is so thin and wind blown there is almost nothing to detect in any given year. Or, the fog never fully dissipates: There may be clearings as in a forest. A spot with grasses, sedges, and fewer (but not no) brush and trees. And, like in a lake, there are observed cool and warmer spots and currents of flow.
:- Doug.
