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Eldering, loving, means to give yourself to the meeting. Meeting person, community, world. No reserve. Totally.

:- Doug.

Think bigger, elder!

:- Doug.

Elders help us figure out what matters.

:- Doug.

As an elder what’s your watchword?

:- Doug.

Elders are about bringing meeting and relation to a world which wants them not.

:- Doug.

Eldering is about real living: opening the world of experiencing and using to the world of meeting and relation.

:- Doug.

We cannot as elder fill to the brim those we are eldering, but can hope sufficiently for the day.

:- Doug.

Teach us to fly.

:- Doug.

We could do a mind map about What is eldering, How one wanders into it. Wandering on purpose, on purpose of eldering.

:- Doug.

This is eldering: asking an adult child about the trajectory of his or her life: gently pointing to possible reflections.

:- Doug.

A goal is simply a want, a consumerist panting after, dressed up to dignify it.

:- Doug.

The key to eldering is to relate, to meet, with the whole being.

:- Doug.

Eldering takes a lifetime of practice.

:- Doug.

Some with dementia are tired and may just want to get away.

:- Doug.

Having a true conversation in the nursing home can mean meeting Daddy again for the first time.

:- Doug.

Trends and forces—make no mistake—are likely to swoop over, under, to one side, or to come and go like the breezes. They may invite counter trends and forces.

:- Doug.

Even if the other cannot, conversing can make you more whole.

:- Doug.

To converse with someone in dementia-land, get past your frustration. Be with this one, now, here—affirm them. Be here. Be kind. Hear.

:- Doug.

The living part of us has work to do right up to the very end.

:- Doug.

To let someone die alone
and in severe pain
is a failure of medical (and human) imagination

:- Doug.

We can only individuate
in the presence of others

:- Doug.

Eldering has often been storying around
because humans innately know
the power of story to lead out among us

:- Doug.

There is power in story
because there is power in conversing

:- Doug.