The need for conversation is not going to go away,
The need for conversation is not going to go away, ever, until the last person is standing on earth.
:- Doug.
Archive for April, 2013
If these are at odds, which do you choose?
If these are at odds, which do you choose?
A. Life sustaining treatment
B. Treatment that provides comfort, relieves suffering, and promotes doing your own activities of daily living
:- Doug.
with one turn around this globe
Life is sacred
life is not done
with one turn
around this globe
sanctity is
in its ebbs and flows
I die yet lives life!
:- Doug.
I used to think God was high above
I used to think God was high above
Then God seemed below holding me up
Now we are walking through God all about us
This too shall be surpassed
God maybe larger maybe otherwise entirely
:- Doug.
Coming together around three main trajectory groups
Could family and friend caregivers come together to help our national community better support the ones for whom we care? Perhaps we could concentrate on the three main trajectory disease groups: cancers and their cliffs; chronic heart diseases and emphysema and their slow decline punctuated by exacerbating events; dementias and frailties with their longer, slower declines.
:- Doug.
Footprints in the Windsm # 1319–What role for family?
Footprints in the Windsm # 1319
What of the role of the family and others who love the dying person? Are they merely empty conduits for the carrying of information? How can we love our families in the ways we choose to die?
Should we for instance take into account the different, maybe violently different or extreme, views of other family members? How do we reconcile differences?
Do we take the lead and do the work of eldering and loving and tell our story close in? Do we talk about our desires to receive and give forgiveness, about thanking, saying goodbyes, giving our soul substance, saying I love you in many ways? Does this bring us together? What brings families together? Stories and memories and heart things, invitation. Speaking of pain and seeing suffering and listening to one another.
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The work of dying is about….
The work of dying is about conversing with: your self; meaning; the incomprehensibility of dying; family; community; something larger.
:- Doug.
Birth is a terminal condition….
Birth is a terminal condition. So we are working on our dying even today, in good health, while our daily rounds continue. This conversing about what care we want at end of life is saying I love you to one another; it is also saying whether and why we might want to be conscious and with family and at home. At home means comfort; conscious so we can do the 5 conversations; and with family so that we can feel the web of life that goes on.
:- Doug.
The work of peace
How might we take the work of peace in death to our society, a society that thinks death is a failure?
:- Doug.
A handle and a picture
Since few have seen God and talked about it, all we have are metaphors. I have been working to throw off the old metaphors and get a larger, truer understanding. Yet all I come to are new metaphors. Although those can help, eventually they too need to be left behind. Crutches, vehicles, and then traps are metaphors. God without images is the old advice. No easier today. No more in line with human desires for a handle and a picture.
:- Doug.
For cure or for care?
If you are terminally ill do you want to be treated for cure or for care?
:- Doug.
Footprints in the Windsm # 1318–Related
Footprints in the Windsm # 1318
Related are we
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Extending our reach vs labor saving
In the 1950s we saw machines as labor saving devices, things to do for us. Today we have machines extending our reach, enabling us to do new things. Humans dislike idleness, ever do.
:- Doug.
When is death?
When is death when a loved one has dementia? When the personality disappears? How much of it? When the body disappears?
:- Doug.
