Archive for April, 2012

When we flame

Betweens are fire
We become real
When we flame

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 25th, 2012 | No Comments »

What can we find in elder conversation?

What can we find in elder conversation?

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 25th, 2012 | No Comments »

A between opening

A between opening
silence is

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 25th, 2012 | No Comments »

the silence under

G*d may be the silence
under the noise
beneath the silence

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 25th, 2012 | No Comments »

Our atmosphere

Our atmosphere, G*d is
Fog & oxygen
Welcome & iciness
Expanses electrons fly through
Living spaces all about
We are—only—our betweens

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 25th, 2012 | No Comments »

The thousand-petaled locus of our being

Betweens are the locus of being. We get our being from meeting, which creates many betweens. With two people one between, with three, four, with four, eleven, and so forth. The possibilities expand beyond exponentially.

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 24th, 2012 | No Comments »

We meet, therefore I am.

We meet, therefore I am.

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 24th, 2012 | No Comments »

Meeting → Persons

Question → Change
Meeting → Persons
Good → Movement

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 24th, 2012 | No Comments »

Start the change before the presentation?

Start the change before the presentation: state the title as question.

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 24th, 2012 | No Comments »

Who can do you?

Only I can do me
You and only you can do you
Together, irreplaceable under the sun

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 24th, 2012 | No Comments »

People weaving

We’re all, always
People weaving
Life into life entwining

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 23rd, 2012 | No Comments »

Retirement: bringing family closer

There is another image coming for me today: retirement, our own later years, turning them purposely toward bringing family closer together. We work and play with these our family members, children, grandchildren, sister, brother, individually and together. With renewed intention we move toward interweaving our lives with one another. This certainly starts bringing my practice into my life and my life into my practice.

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 23rd, 2012 | No Comments »

Something in common in our professional practices

There is something we have in common in our professional practices—every one we meet—without exception—is growing older—closer to death—and we notice. And we can help. Is death a negative experience? It can be. But mainly it just is.

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 23rd, 2012 | No Comments »

I am not the expert

I am not the expert. I am not here to teach you anything. You are the experts. You will teach—and invent me and each other.

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 23rd, 2012 | No Comments »

Two ways to get from here to there:

There are at least two ways to get from here to there—we can slog through the slough—or we can jump from stone to stone.

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 22nd, 2012 | No Comments »

Financial planning these days….

Much financial planning these days is grounded in an unstated end game of self sufficiency. It’s all about me. We will not rely upon our children in our retirement, we will do what we want. We will not even involve our children. This is moving counter to the direction of humanity which is itself coming together, toward community from lone stranger among us. Do we really want to be the me generation? Is it our highest and best?

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 22nd, 2012 | No Comments »

Met a medical resident who….

Met a medical resident who seemed wise beyond his years. He said the conversation is difficult because sometimes the patient rejects the conversation. Is it done as simply as to say, He wouldn’t go any further? Does it absolve your professional and personal responsibility? Or simply apply a salve?

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 22nd, 2012 | No Comments »

Who has responsibility?

Who as the responsibility to call this conversation about end of life? Parent or child? Lawyer or client? Doctor or patient? How do we decide? Whoever has the larger view? Whoever can see the harm from not having the conversation? Whoever is most willing? Whoever is most scared of it? This is humanity—whoever has the most love?

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 22nd, 2012 | No Comments »

Questions can call us higher

Questions can call us higher.

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 22nd, 2012 | No Comments »

Asking these questions:

Conversation asks these questions: 1. What information can we exchange? 2. What fellow feeling can we exchange? These are the simplest levels where we tend to stop. But there are more: 3. How can we respond? What more is possible now? What can we dream? 4. Who can we invent us to be together? 5. Who can we find and invent our very selves to be?

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 21st, 2012 | No Comments »

Have you ever met anyone…?

Have you ever met anyone else whose work is elder conversations? These conversations run the range from how to live well within the budget and family we have, to how to live the last chapter of our lives. They often get profound. For instance, when it comes your turn to die, where would you want to be, and with whom?

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 21st, 2012 | No Comments »

each word becomes more important and less

When we have very little to say, each word becomes both more important and less. More because we have to make each count. Less because the precise words are not important, only the heart of them.

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 21st, 2012 | No Comments »

to remind me

I call myself an Elder Caring Attorney to remind me to be caring.

:- Doug.

Published in: Conversations | on April 21st, 2012 | No Comments »
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